The Marks of Genuine Generosity

Discover how you can be more generous

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Genuine Generosity

Let me tell you about my friend Steve. Steve is an incredibly generous person. Financially he’s given away a greater percentage of his income each year, every year. He gives without expecting anything in return, often in secret. You’d think Steve would be super well off, nup! He’s a renter with a regular job. His generosity goes way beyond money too. He’s generous with his time and willingness to help, with his home and things. Steve is genuinely generous and happily so. How I wish I was as generous as him. In Steve I’ve learnt some of the marks of genuine generosity.

The Marks of Genuine Generosity

Without Reward or Recognition

There’s a false generosity that is generous for the sake of being seen. The sort of person who wants a building with their name plastered on the side. Or for the less well off, a brick! This is a generosity with strings attached. I’ll give as long as your recognise me, as long as you make much of me. I’m in it for what I can get out of it. It’s why many charities have to offer a prize for donations or some form of public recognition. But genuine generosity is being generous without acknowledgement. Generous without reward. The truly generous give when no one is looking and no one knows. There’s no strings attached, no sense of you owe me back.

Selfless

Genuine generosity is by nature selfless. It’s taking what could be used for me and offering it to someone else. Taking my money, my time, my talents, my things and offering them to someone in need. It is selfless. It’s not done to get anything, but simply to give. It’s pleasure is in another’s pleasure and not one’s own. This is genuine generosity.

Sacrificial and Costly

Genuine generosity hurts. It’s costly and sacrificial. It means giving to the point that you feel it. Dropping your spare change in a tin is hardly generous. It may appease a gnawing conscience but it’s not generous. But when you really give there’s a cost, something you have to give up on or let go of.

Humble

This may seem strange. But people who look down on others are never genuinely generous. They may give a token to be seen, but will always keep the majority for themselves. They don’t feel genuine compassion for others but are rather happy to be ‘not like them’. ‘Surely those people should help themselves first,’ they might be heard to say. It’s the humble, it’s those who’ve often been themselves through difficulty that are the quickest to give. This is why in study after study, the poor give proportionately more than the rich. The Humble are genuinely generous, the proud are not.

Compassionate

Genuine generosity is always fostered from a heart of compassion. To be moved from the heart is to be generous in every way. There’s a reason charity’s show those images. They know without the heart, they will get change. But if there is heart, the wallet follows. Generous people are always compassionate people.

Why Be Generous?

You could just hoard everything for yourself? Why take what you could have and part with it? This is after all a blog about saving money and earning and investing it. Isn’t giving your money away mean your financial goals are further away? Won’t this add years until you can retire and lower your net worth? Why would you do this?

Well if life were only money, I guess you might not. Imagine meeting Steve, a genuinely generous person. Someone who is concerned about you and is quick to give you his time, money and friendship. Compare that to someone who is not generous, who is selfish and proud and concerned only for what they can get from you, not give to you. Who would you rather be around? Who would you rather be?

Genuinely generous people are generous to the core. It’s who they are. I want to be like Steve, I take it that you would want to be like him too. But if you’re not generous with your money, you probably won’t be with your friendship, time or anything else. It’s about the sort of person you want to be. Getting rich without being generous is not a path I want to walk. I hope you don’t either. So be careful in your pursuit of wealth, that you pursue it with generosity as well.

Wealthy and Generosity

Wealth and generosity can go hand in hand, but often they don’t. As noted, the wealthier you are the less likely you are to be generous. Sad, but true. Wealth can breed pride and superiority. The love of wealth can be all consuming and cause many to care little at all about others (apart from what you can get from them!). So commit yourself not only to gaining wealth, but to generosity as well. You can only give from what you’ve been able first to save. Living frugally and wisely saving your dollars frees you up to be generous.

Debt and Generosity

If the pursuit of wealth can destroy generosity, so too can debt. Debt is like a noose that controls you. How can I be generous with this huge debt to pay. Everything must go to the master who owns me. I know personally that when I’m free of debt in all it’s forms I’m incredibly more generous. And that includes house debt. Debt constricts generosity because you’re always a slave to your debtor.

How Do You Become More Generous?

The million dollar question. I think that those who are most generous are those who have experienced generosity themselves. This I suspect is why the poor give more proportionately than the rich. They know what it means to be in need and have experienced the benefits of the genuine generosity of others. There’s compassion and understanding, a humility that comes from having been there. The rich often have no such experience to draw on. Recently we were given a large bag of clothing for our kids. Could I now go and sell those clothes? Of course not, I’m going to pass on what we can when the kids outgrow them. I’ll pass on the generosity that was passed onto me. So then Generosity is a mixture of humility, compassion, understanding, experience and means. In light of that here’s a few suggestions to grow you in generosity.

Remember Your Own Poverty

Think for a moment about how much say you had in being born in a relatively rich country, compared to a poor one? Answer: None. We all enter the world the same way, we all start with nothing. If you have something, it’s 90% pure chance. So you can’t look down on those who have nothing. Remember there’s nothing different between you and the most impoverished of peoples. When you realise that, you not only have no reason to look down on others, but you have an obligation. Have you noticed how emigrants from poorer countries are always sending money home. Their privilege is for sharing with all. So too is yours. Living in some of the richest countries in the world is a privilege to be shared, not hoarded.

Experience Generosity Instead Of Rejecting It

There’s a false humility that rejects the help and generosity of others. Oh no, I don’t need that. Don’t! You’re taking away the opportunity to experience genuine generosity. It’s also just plain prideful. Who cares if it’s not needed or deserved. This is the very experience that will draw out generosity in you. As I said, you pass on what you receive. Receive first and you’ll gladly give.

Grow Your Faith

Being religious doesn’t make you more generous in and of itself. But if you believe that your God gave up everything for you, even life itself. If this was done to give you everything, that’s genuine generosity. To believe and experience that will make you more generous, just as you receive generosity from others, you can receive it from God too. That’s what faith is. Faith, rightly understood, fosters humility, sacrifice and compassion, the ingredients of genuine generosity. Grow your faith and it will flow over into generosity.

Discover By Doing

‘It’s more blessed to give than to receive’, is true. The only way to know it’s true is to give it a go. Give, give generously, sacrificially, humbly, compassionately, without any need for acclamation or repayment. Do it and experience the joy of it. It might just be a bit addictive. You’ll be a better person for it. And like Steve, you’ll be friend worth knowing and being like.

Do you have any more suggestions? Please let me know and if you liked this post, please share it!

The Marks of Genuine Generosity

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